My Strongest Support

I understand that many are hesitant to discuss their doubts with others.  I personally just recently told my parents about my doubt/unbelief, which I’ll write about later. Sometimes it is easier to talk to some stranger about these personal thoughts than someone that you grew up with, or live with.  Relationships can become strained and made more complicated, or worse broken.  Sometimes the fear of this change can cause people to not share with those who they are closest to.  However, I think this can cause more harm than good.
 
The first person who I shared my doubts with, and the person who has been my strongest support, has been my wife.  Even though she is a Christian and I am in unbelief, I don’t consider ourselves unequally yoked.  We are still yoked together and are working together to find our way through this life.  That is what a marriage is about, working together through the tough times. 
 
It has been a blessing that we like different things.  I get into science and theology and my wife is into managing the house (7 kids), finances, and most recently taxes.  We have our own areas that we find interesting and devote our energies to.  Sure, I sometimes get frustrated that she doesn’t struggle with the problem of evil or the lack of supernatural evidence.  But these things just aren’t her “thing”, just like finance and taxes aren’t my “thing”.
 
This doesn’t mean I don’t tell her what I’m struggling with.  It just means that instead of her challenging my beliefs and getting into theological debates, she gives me a shoulder to cry on and arms to hold me.  She listens compassionately to my troubles and loves me in spite of my unbelief.  So in practice, I have my theological discussions with others in my church or online, and at the end of the day I come home and find rest in the loving arms of my wife that gives me strength through this all.

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Father, I long to be wise, Too see with new eyes

In church today I enjoyed singing a version of  “We Are Listening“. Here are some of the lyrics:

Father, I long to be wise,
To see with new eyes
The truth that was written by Your hand
Father, speak
Your truth into me
Because I still believe
That You will help me understand

The lyrics just spoke to me in my quest to find the truth about Christianity. Today I felt a bit hopeful. I’m still a long ways off from anything close to what I’d consider a belief in God. But today I just felt a little bit less depressed about my unbelief.

- Download the song here.

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Types of Christian Doubt

It being Sunday, I thought I’d recommend a sermon on doubt by Dominic Smart. This sermon is on three main forms of doubt that Christians go through.  I’ve gone through all three forms and am currently in the third form of doubt–a refusal to accept God.  A willful choice to believe in science and my own understanding over the Word of God.

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What I’m not doubting

Maybe I’m biased. Maybe I prefer science over blind faith. Maybe I don’t get my information from right wing radio and cable host. Maybe I trust the scientific consensus too much. But this whole “scandal” on anthropogenic (AGW) is frustrating. I find it interesting that the Christian right is so willing to deny AGW (and other theories with tons of data like evolution), but quickly believe something that has little hard evidence (supernatural being). Here are some videos that helped put this scandal to rest for me.

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Reasonable Faith Podcast

CraigI have another podcast recommendation. It’s more on the scholarly side, but it’s definitely a good resource and is by a popular apologiticist, William Lane Craig. I’ve been going through the Defenders podcasts and have enjoyed the lectures on the cosmological, teleological, and moral arguments. William does present the arguments well, and he covers them in as much detail as a podcast should allow. He also has a good website with tons of material.

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Evolution in Action

For all you out there who don’t believe in evolution, here is absolute proof of a transition between species.

transitional animal

Just kidding. Evolution doesn’t really work this way :)

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Reasonable Doubts

I’ve started listening to the Resonable Doubts podcast, and so far I must say I enjoy it. The audio quality is great, and the 3 guys that put in on are very creative. I have also found it very cool that they are from Grand Rapids (where I lived for 4 years) and they mention the Christian Reformed Church (church I grew up in), Calvin College (went there), and Dutch heritage (I’m mostly Dutch) all of which strike close to home.

A couple things to keep in mind is that it is a podcast, so you can’t hold them to the same rigor as a published book. Podcasts have more freedom and spontaneity, so arguments are not always fully developed, straw men are sometimes presented, and mistakes can happen. But its a podcast. It’s supposed to be entertaining and informative, both of which they do an excellent job. Some of the podcasts are very one sided and come off as a podcast of  angry atheists, but these have been few (as far as I have listened to). I have liked when they have had on the show someone of the faith, where both sides are presented. I also enjoy the more scholarly segments: “God thinks like you” and “Skeptics Sunday School”.  The three fellas that put the podcast on are all professors, so they bring a scholarly eire to the program. But seldom does the podcast get too think in theological discussions. The three amigos keep it entertaining and have kept me tuning in to their podcast.

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Medical Theories on the Cause of Jesus’ Death

Ran across this interesting article in the Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine. It a nice review article that briefly list the many theories of how Jesus may have died. Some of the different theories of how Jesus died: Cardiac rupture, Heart failure, Hypovolaemic shock, Syncope, Acidosis, Asphyxia, Arrhythmia plus asphyxia, Pulmonary embolism, and Voluntary surrender of life. It illustrates once again the mystery behind Jesus, and how with even modern science we may never have a firm grasp of what happened.

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Skeptical Dial

DialEveryone has a skeptical dial. You ratchet it way up when it comes to arguments or conclusions that you don’t like, but then you dial it way down for your own personally held views. In researching the Christian faith I once had, I find myself ratcheting my skeptical dial up and down. I recently caught myself doing this when listening to a podcast on the cosmological argument. I quickly want proof for a designer God, but don’t demand proof for the opposing theory of a multiverse. Both sides of the argument cross over into  metaphysics, but I find myself more skeptical of the arguments that have religious implications. I place the burden of proof on Christianity; however, at the end of the day belief in a multiverse may take as much faith to believe in.

Granted a skeptical dial is beneficial and I use mine every day. For instance, I am not skeptical of the traffic lights, or the evening news, or the love of my wife.  However, I am skeptical of the Spaghetti Flying Monster, acupuncture, and astrology. Other things fall on a range of . For instance I believe the 1 day weather forecast over the 7 day forecast, and I believe the 7 day forecast over the Farmer’s Almanac.

But when seriously weighing two sides of an argument, it is unfair to put an unreasonable burned of proof on one side, because that biases the conclusion before research even starts. So while I keep searching, I need to remember to keep my hands off the dial, and require from both sides the same burden of proof.

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Two Kinds of Skepticism

Tim in the comments quoted an excellent passage from Andrew Peabody. It was so good that I wanted to highlight it here as a separate post.

There are two kinds of scepticism,—that of the heart and that of the intellect. The former is adapted to make unbelievers; the latter, to make Christians. The fomer will not look at the hands and the side, because it is determined not to be moved morally and spiritually as they would move the honest soul; the latter insists on seeing the wound-marks, because it wants to know the precise truth, and therefore avails itself of whatever evidence God has given. The scepticism of the heart hates the light, and will not come to the light, lest its deeds be reproved. The scepticism of the mind is that which cannot believe without sufficient evidence. It proves all things, and holds fast that which will stand the test. It examines both sides of a question, and adheres to that which imposes the least strain on its belief. Such a mind needs only to have the evidences of Christianity fairly presented, to yield to it entire and cordial faith. Many of the firmest believers, many of the ablest defenders of the truth as it is in Jesus, belong to this class of minds. In this sense, Lardner, Paley, and Butler, whose contributions to the Christian evidences are invaluable, and will be so for generations to come, were pre-eminently sceptics. They would not believe, without examining the hands and the side, trying all the witnesses, testing the objections against Christianity with the opposing arguments, weighing coolly and impartially the evidence, real or pretended, on either side; and the result was a faith in Christ, which sight could hardly have rendered clearer or stronger.

God has made many such minds, and they are among the noblest and best of his creation.

– Andrew P. Peabody, Christianity and Science (New York: Robert Carter and Brothers, 1874), pp. 250-51.

In dealing with my own doubt and interacting with others who doubt or have lost their faith, I have seen these two kinds of . In my own case I have had both kinds of . The of the heart is less frequent and comes when I am just tired of searching for God, and say to myself, “The hell with it!” But luckily these moments are few. Unfortunately, most of what I’ve found on the internet has been of this variety. These sites are full of hate and bitterness; rejecting opposing arguments just because they are opposing arguments. The more healthier and productive is what Andrew describes as “ of the mind”. This is the kind of which will look at the evidence farely and go where the data leads them. This is the type of I aim for.

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