I understand that many are hesitant to discuss their doubts with others. I personally just recently told my parents about my doubt/unbelief, which I’ll write about later. Sometimes it is easier to talk to some stranger about these personal thoughts than someone that you grew up with, or live with. Relationships can become strained and made more complicated, or worse broken. Sometimes the fear of this change can cause people to not share with those who they are closest to. However, I think this can cause more harm than good.
The first person who I shared my doubts with, and the person who has been my strongest support, has been my wife. Even though she is a Christian and I am in unbelief, I don’t consider ourselves unequally yoked. We are still yoked together and are working together to find our way through this life. That is what a marriage is about, working together through the tough times.
It has been a blessing that we like different things. I get into science and theology and my wife is into managing the house (7 kids), finances, and most recently taxes. We have our own areas that we find interesting and devote our energies to. Sure, I sometimes get frustrated that she doesn’t struggle with the problem of evil or the lack of supernatural evidence. But these things just aren’t her “thing”, just like finance and taxes aren’t my “thing”.
This doesn’t mean I don’t tell her what I’m struggling with. It just means that instead of her challenging my beliefs and getting into theological debates, she gives me a shoulder to cry on and arms to hold me. She listens compassionately to my troubles and loves me in spite of my unbelief. So in practice, I have my theological discussions with others in my church or online, and at the end of the day I come home and find rest in the loving arms of my wife that gives me strength through this all.
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I have another podcast recommendation. It’s more on the scholarly side, but it’s definitely a good resource and is by a popular apologiticist, 
Everyone has a skeptical dial. You ratchet it way up when it comes to arguments or conclusions that you don’t like, but then you dial it way down for your own personally held views. In researching the Christian faith I once had, I find myself ratcheting my skeptical dial up and down. I recently caught myself doing this when listening to a podcast on the cosmological argument. I quickly want proof for a designer God, but don’t demand proof for the opposing theory of a multiverse. Both sides of the argument cross over into metaphysics, but I find myself more skeptical of the arguments that have religious implications. I place the burden of proof on Christianity; however, at the end of the day belief in a multiverse may take as much faith to believe in.